Coeur d'Femme: a local podcast for the femme perspective
“Communication is key".
We hear this phrase often. This is a concept most properly functioning humans understand. It is common knowledge. How do we work things out? First, just talk about it! If we are so sure of the necessity for communication, why is it so damn hard to practice and implement in our valued relationships?
Connection drives humanity; the desire to relate to someone outside ourself is an essential human need. Whether that connection be to others, through relationships, community, spirituality, sports, politics, nature, etc, or with ourselves, we all - at some time or another - seek expansion.
Ego can get in the way of our communication, prompting a retreat in fear or the licking of a wound after argument. Pain can debilitate a willingness to listen and work through issues to find resolve. Pride can stunt an interest to learn how to disagree and remain in connection.
We know communication is key to keeping the door of our heart and mind unlocked and open for connection; we know it's easier said than done. But, we must also know, and truly believe, that connection is attainable and achievable. It's just laborious. And it's just remaining hopeful.
Women know something about labor. We know this shit is gonna hurt, we know sometimes we just don't feel "ready" but too bad, so sad, on with the show. We know there's a chance things could go horribly wrong along the way - that one of us might not come out alive - and we also know that we could be holding something new, some treasure, while feeling damn proud of the work we have done to bring it forth. We know insurmountable fear, we know insane pain, yet we continue to practice the art of moving forward in the process.
We must remember this when faced with the challenges of communication. Listening through pain is possible. Seeking to understand while sitting in pride is possible. The next step reveals itself after you've taken the first. Expanding and strengthening connection is not free, and it often costs us something we are not willing to let go of.